Blinkered existence ...
Life has become busier, there’s no doubt about it, not more productive, just busier. What used to be our downtime has now been filled with endless phone checking, responding to things that really could have waited , flicking through TV channels, binge watching online shows etc etc. We get so caught up in our day to day lives that we live unconsciously and allow ourselves to be swept along, sometimes until we reach crisis point; we wake up just as we arrive at the top of the waterfall with the white waters roaring around us and the rocks looming below and then we have to come up with an emergency response out of nowhere.
When was the last time you stopped and really thought about where you are in life and if it’s really were you want to or have to be?
How many times have you reviewed the direction you’re taking to determine if it’s going to take you where you want to go?
Do you hate your job but still get up and show up week after week? How many years have you given away doing that?
Do you want to lose weight and get healthier but keep putting it off until next Monday, or are you on a repeat cycle of Diet/Blow Out/Diet?
Are you still smoking, knowing everything that you know about how damaging it is, never mind how expensive?
Is your relationship faltering, stagnating or even becoming Toxic?
Do you engage in draining friendships?
Have you forgotten your dreams?
Are you out of touch with your emotions to the extent that your response to certain triggers is as much as surprise to you as it may be to the people around you?
Do you know where to find joy in your life?
Life's most important investment strategy...
Take a few minutes now to do this exercise. Get a piece of paper and draw a line on it. Draw yourself as a stick figure at the start of that line and call that “now”. Let’s assume you’re going to live to be 90 for the purpose of this exercise (you can amend that to comply with your own estimate), write me at 90 at the end of the line. Break the line into 5 and 10 year increments. Now from your current perspective make a note of where you think you’d like to be and what you’d like to be doing at each of those increments. Think about what you need to do to get to hit those goals, and consider if they’re achievable.
Now let’s look from another perspective. Work from the other end of the line where you’re 80. Imagine yourself at the age of 80, at the end of your life looking back. Are you happy about how you spent your time, do the priorities look the same? What changes if any would you make?
Now close your eyes and just let your finger land randomly at any point on that line. Imagine that that for some reason turns out to be the end of your line. How does it look now? How do you feel about how you’ve spent your life? How do you feel about how you’ve distributed your time between loved ones, work, accumulating wealth, connecting with other people, finding joy?
Sit with whatever if anything you’ve learned from this process for a moment. Notice how time is non-refundable; once it’s spent it’s spent. What if anything do you need to change?
No returns no refunds....
Time has the strictest most universally enforceable no returns policy on earth. It is also only available on live stream. You may have an underlying assumption that you can set some aside for later in your life, but no you can’t. If you miss something now e.g. 5 minutes to listen to your kids story about kinder or a half day off work to go to a school play, you don’t get to redeem that later when the kids have grown up and are getting on with their own busy lives. If you can’t be bothered walking that faithful dog, or stroking that cat, one day they will no longer be there patiently waiting for you. If you become so caught up in the daily grind that you withdraw from your partner, they don’t sit on pause until you see the light, time keeps moving on for them too.
The only influence we may have over our time is in how we care for ourselves. If we take care of our physical selves through healthy diet and exercise and avoiding unhealthy behaviour and habits we may earn extra time credits. If we take care of our emotional and mental health we may earn additional credits too; these credits have the added bonus value of allowing us to remain more present in our time and to maximise the value of the time we have e.g. to spend with loved ones. Taking care of our mental health enables us to notice what we have, learning to appreciate what we have creates a compounding interest which then feeds back into our quality time bank. If we maintain mental health we can remain aware of possibilities, which incidentally continue to exist even when we may not be in the right frame of mind to notice them.
So if you think you may have been coasting or blindly wandering through life, now may be a good time to stop, do the exercise above and take stock.
What do you need to change today in order to live the life you want to live?
If you’d like help making some changes, or becoming unstuck, please don’t hesitate to give me a call on 0435 923 817. Whether you're dealing with Depression, Anxiety, weight loss, would like to increase your confidence or need to quit a damaging behaviour I'm confident we can work together to design a program tailored to meet your needs.
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Georgina Mitchell was born in Ireland, moving to Australia in 1989. Georgina spent many years working in senior management in the Corporate world, before leaving to pursue her passion to become a Therapist.
Please note as with all therapies, Results for Therapies delivered by Hypfocus may vary from person to person