This time of year can be full of excitement for some and dread for others. Some people look forward to celebrating with family while others feel overwhelmed by the financial and emotional pressures as well as the expectations of others and the expectations they place upon themselves. The expectations real or imagined can be what drive our Stress and Anxiety levels through the roof.
If you’re experiencing an increasing feeling of overwhelm here are some tips to help you get through:
1. Consciously acknowledge that you are feeling overwhelmed and then break it down. What is really important and how many of the expectations you feel obliged to try to meet are real and worthy of your energy? A good reality check is to ask yourself “what will matter a month after the holidays?” Remember the KISS principle (Keep It Simple Stupid).
2. Take some time out to re-group breath and take care of you. If the outcome you want is to have a good and happy holiday experience, that’s not going to happen if you run yourself into the ground in the lead up and are a mere shell by the time they arrive, slumping resentfully in the corner. Don’t try to be superhuman, you’re not, and FYI nobody is.
3. Trying to provide everything someone wants at too great an expense to yourself is not right for either of you. It’s ok e.g. for kids to learn that they can’t always have what they want, that’s a lesson that will recur throughout life and learning the resilience to deal with it and realise that they survive it will be more valuable to them in the long run than any game console or smart phone. In fact you’ll often hear highly successful people say that it was not being able to have something they wanted when they were young, that motivated them to achieve success when they grew up. The kids that get everything handed to them on a plate, where’s their incentive to get motivated? If they really want something, perhaps investigate an opportunity for them to work and save for it themselves, which will teach them the value of money, the sweet sense of accomplishment as well as a belief that they are empowered to achieve things in their own right.
4. Delegate, don’t’ be the martyr that runs around cleaning, cooking, shopping, decorating, wrapping, gardening, baking, visiting, caring while other able bodied members of the family carry on as if they have an indentured servant instead of a loved one catering to their needs. Get everyone to pitch in and do their part. You don’t have to be a slave to be valued.
5. Remember the point of it. The point isn’t to be perfect, the point isn’t to spend more, impress the neighbours and extended family, or cater as if Gordon Ramsay is breathing down your neck. The point is to connect with loved ones. Let that be the emphasis and the core to all the plans, and enjoy the benefits.
If you find your Anxiety levels are rising, if you're struggling with Stress, Social Anxiety, General Anxiety Disorder and/or Loneliness at this time of year, getting help from a professional will help you gain clarity and calm. If you'd like to talk to be about how I can help with any form of Anxiety, Panic, Overwhelm, Fear of Failure, Pefectionism, Loneliness please feel free to give me a call on 0435 923 817, or use this contact form. For further information visit this page.
If possible this may also be a good opportunity to volunteer or reach out to people that you know may not have the opportunity to spend Christmas with their families.
If you have any further tips on reducing overwhelm over the holidays please feel free to comment below, I'd love to hear what you think.
Georgina Mitchell was born in Ireland, moving to Australia in 1989. Georgina spent many years working in senior management in the Corporate world, before leaving to pursue her passion to become a Therapist.
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