How do you handle the ever present Saboteurs that seem to go into overdrive around holiday time?
You know the kind I mean, the people that know you're trying to lose weight, abstain from alcohol, save money by not going out, catch up on Uni Assignments or work an extra shift for some much needed income and yet they still decide to pressure you to try to break your resolve.
They wave hot cross buns and Easter eggs under your nose when they know you're working hard to avoid them, or ignore your protests and refuse to leave until you comply with their wish to go out with them. They often embarrass you in front of others or use emotional blackmail like telling you they'll be hurt if you don't accept or that you'd be rude not to. The fact is that whether they realise it or not, they are not respecting your choices and boundaries so in fact they are the ones being rude.
This is generally not malicious, in fact it's probably true to say we are all guilty of it at one time or another. It's a throwback to a more austere time when people were taught to politely refuse things offered the first time in case the person offering could not really afford to share and then the ritual of insisting came into play. A lot of cultures still play this ritual of offering food or drinks over and over again in spite of refusals and hence boundaries begin to blur. We need to recognise that it's an outdated social style because we in the west have largely been living in a world excess for decades now. The result is that while in the past being offered a treat was a novelty, these days avoiding them has become the challenge, delaying gratification has never been so challenging. We need to update what we find socially acceptable and politely back off when people around us are trying to eat healthily or achieve any personal goal that's contrary to what's on offer.
So how can you handle these awkward encounters?
Focus on what you want to achieve, what action you need to take to achieve it and what you will gain from achieving it. Remember it's easier to maintain a consistent habit than it is to resume one. Keep your eye on the prize, visualise how it will feel, how it will look, how it will sound, what you will see in your eyes when you look in the mirror when you've reached your target!
If you find that your internal Saboteur is particularly insistent Hypnotherapy can be very helpful in providing the tools and insight to resolve the inner conflict.
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Melbourne Hypnotherapist Georgina Mitchell was born in Ireland, moving to Australia in 1989. Georgina Specialises in helping people with Anxiety Disorders and is an active member of the Melbourne Hypnotherapy Community. In Melbourne Hypnosis is being accepted as effective tool for anyone wanting to achieve a positive change in Mood, Behaviour and Habit.
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