are toxic relationships making you fat? Lose weight and overcome addiction through improved self-esteem
Self-Esteem & Relationships
Have you ever noticed that when someone with low self-esteem begins to build confidence and self-worth, that they often begin to shed friendships? This is because people with low self-esteem settle for very poor quality and often very toxic relationships and as they become healthier they realise they’re better off without them.
Our relationship with food, alcohol, drugs, gambling and even sex can be the same. When we have low self-esteem and therefore find it difficult to build healthy connections with other people, we can be more susceptible to becoming addicted as we search for that feeling of connection we yearn for. Suddenly food begins to feel like our friend, the one we turn to when the kids are in bed and we want to feel that feeling of familiarity and comfort, the sugar rush feels almost like the rush of love. We want to have that glass of wine, and then another and then another because It feels good to become numb and allow the feeling of emotional void to be temporarily forgotten. Afterwards though, that’s different; the crash from the sugar fix, the guilt, the self-loathing, the feeling of depression and heightened anxiety (which is the true effect of alcohol). Food and alcohol aren't our friends; chocolate, chips, ice cream, biscuits… they lull you into that false sense of security, then they abandon you safe in the knowledge that your own perceived dependence will drive you back to them, just as in any abusive relationship. Wine doesn't make life more bearable, the reality is, in too great quantities it makes it a hell of a lot harder. It doesn't help anyone unwind; it simply creates a fog in which you drive blindly like a crash waiting to happen.
Chose your friends wisely
Using Mindfulness you can begin to build your self-esteem, bit by bit you become more present in your life. You build the courage to remove the blinkers and you begin to notice, really notice what’s going on. You pay equal attention to the consequences of your actions as you do to immediate gratification. You begin to notice that when you drink that bottle of wine, yes maybe you block out the feeling of stress but you block out everything else too and large chunks of your life are rendered unusable, the next day you notice how agitated you feel, tight in the chest, breath is laboured, edgy, life seems even harder, you notice the depressive affect the alcohol is actually having and it begins to seem ludicrous that this is your solution to managing stress in the first place.
Be your own best friend
Hypnotherapy takes this further, it fast-tracks that realisation at the deepest possible level while boosting the self-esteem of the client. It creates a safe internal environment in which the client can resolve their own feelings, explore and challenge old beliefs and to view themselves with compassion. The Virtual Gastric Band Program which I use for weight loss enables my clients to re-invent their relationship with food so that it’s no longer an emotional drug. They are no longer dependent on quick fixes from sugary high (trans) fat foods, or dictated to by an appetite for more than is required to live a healthy, happy and balanced life. Hypnotherapy puts my clients back in control; they don’t feel deprived because they aren't! They are satisfied with smaller quantities of healthier food choices. Why? Because they are not looking for an emotional fix any more. The repair work to the self-esteem and the self-soothing skills taught during therapy render that unnecessary. The ego is built up so that they understand they deserve to take care of themselves. Other forms of addiction may require more long term therapy, however Hypnotherapy will provide the tools required to resolve the issue for the long term.
*Call me for help!
If you’d like help losing weight, overcoming an addiction, improving your self-esteem give me a call on 0435 923 817, my name is Georgina Mitchell and I'm the founder of Hypfocus Therapies in Mentone, South East Melbourne. Or you can use this contact form. I look forward to hearing from you soon.
* Results may vary
Georgina Mitchell was born in Ireland, moving to Australia in 1989. Georgina spent many years working in senior management in the Corporate world, before leaving to pursue her passion to become a Therapist.
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Please note as with all therapies, Results for Therapies delivered by Hypfocus may vary from person to person