You know what you want but....
You know you want to lose weight and yet you keep either eating the wrong foods, eating too much, or sabotaging your efforts with that nightly wine which then leads to a snack and probably another glass of wine.
You know you don’t want to do that, but you still do…..
Why is that?
The behaviours bad but the intention is good....
In my experience as a Therapist I’ve seen time and time again that it’s because my client’s (and this has applied to me too!) sub-conscious mind is trying to look after them. It’s got the best of intentions, it’s just misguided. At some point the behaviour has seemed to serve them in some way and it’s made a very big impression! Their subconscious mind was given that message and has locked in the pattern to reproduce that behaviour when similar feelings are activated.
It may be that an early belief was formed around food based on what was modelled by parents; it may have even been a substitute for love and affection, or a reward. It may have even been used as a means to build a layer of protection to avoid unwanted attention. It could be that it’s come to represent a means to fill a void, not just an empty tummy but a feeling of emptiness brought about by boredom, lack of a creative outlet, not having emotional needs met or not feeling ‘enough’. A lot of people seek out a feeling of physical fullness to combat the feeling of emptiness as if locked in an emotional metaphor, this is commonly known as emotional eating and is now recognised as one of the main drivers behind our current Obesity epidemic.
These beliefs are very deeply held and they trigger automatic thoughts and actions in a Nano-second, just as our subconscious mind can fire our muscles and nerve endings if we need to flee danger, or catch a ball in sport, in less than the blink of an eye so can the impulse to eat/drink be triggered and set in motion before we even know what’s happening.
It can even sometimes feel as though we’re a split personality, telling ourselves all day “I’m not going to drink tonight” then suddenly getting that feeling as if a switch has been thrown and hearing ourselves ordering another bottle of red.
When the sub-conscious knows better it does better!
This is why I love combining my skills as a Hypnotherapist with NLP skills. NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming provides tools to alter those patterns of behaviour and automatic responses by teaching clients to create a new more positive pattern response.
You may be thinking “I’m set in my ways” or” I do well for a while and then revert back”, but you’d be surprised to realise how quickly the brain can learn a new habit and then make it a default response. Mind you if you think how quick your brain is to develop a fear or phobia, it might alter your perception. How many people have developed a fear of dogs based on one attack or even just an incident which lasted less than a couple of minutes? Changes don’t have to be brought about by fear. I can help my client effect change simply by identifying how the behaviour is done by them as an individual and how they perceive the world in those moments, then with their input I can direct them towards more constructive perceptions for the subconscious to draw upon.
*The Virtual Gastric Band Program is the weight loss program breakthrough you've been waiting for!
This is one of the reasons I love the Virtual Gastric Band program for weight loss as it enables my clients to lay down the tracks for those new more constructive behavioural patterns. I like to combine it with some NLP techniques to really set my clients up for success.
If you’d like to know more please feel free to give me a call on 0435 923 817. My practice is located in Mentone, South East Melbourne and is easily accessible from the Nepean Highway, Monash Fwy or Eastlink.
* Results may vary
Georgina Mitchell was born in Ireland, moving to Australia in 1989. Georgina spent many years working in senior management in the Corporate world, before leaving to pursue her passion to become a Therapist.
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Please note as with all therapies, Results for Therapies delivered by Hypfocus may vary from person to person