tHe other side of mothers day

Mother’s day can be a wonderful family event, a time of gathering together to celebrate and reward the family Matriarch and give her a well-earned and all too rare rest.

However, as with all relationships, not all maternal relationships are created equal.  Some can be fraught with tension and dysfunction the depth of which can only be understood from within.  This means that for some people mother’s day brings with it a hollow sense of grief for the relationship that never was or is no more and a feeling of being an outsider in a world full of seemingly perfect cookie cutter families.

Often, this loss is most acutely felt when the child of the dysfunctional mother/child relationship goes on to have children of their own.  Who is their role model? Who is their rock, their support person and endlessly patient confidant and advisor?  Sometimes the very act of parenting their own children and having a good healthy relationship with them can highlight what they missed in their own childhood.

For the people recovering from dysfunctional relationships with their mothers, it’s important to learn to provide the nurture and love that was previously not present in their relationship with their mothers for themselves.  This can take time, but it is possible.  Positive affirmations can provide some comfort and increase in self-esteem.  Looking in the mirror every day and saying “I love you” and “you’re enough” and “all children deserve unconditional love” can begin this process.  As well as saying these words, take a moment to close your eyes and feel them, send love within to yourself and notice where you feel it in your body. 

Where emotional wounds run deep, Hypnotherapy can provide the tools required to complete the healing process.   There are a number of therapies which can be delivered in light trance which can guide a client towards resolution of previously unresolved emotions.

To everyone on Mother’s day, feel the love from within.  You are enough and you deserve to be loved.